The Lord has called us to love everyone. That includes those who don't love us back.
I'm in a situation where I am loving a family member who is loving one moment, and cruel and hurtful the next. I can't explain the details or the names, but I will say that I feel sorry for this person as, she is mentally unstable and cannot help it. I can't possibly love her in my own strength, but need God's power to help me. I am whining right now, as I have been hurt once again. Mental illness gives no explanation. It is hollow, savage, wicked and cutting. It bites. It stings."I can do all things through Christ, which strengthens me." Philippians 4:13.With the Lord's help, I've chosen to love the unlovely. I could not do this on my own, for my flesh cries out a mean retort, which I, of course have stifled and not stated aloud. I have had to ask God to forgive me. I'm in a situation where I must choose to love my husband and children first, and do what is best for them because they are my number one responsibility. This other person is second. I must weigh and gauge my energy level and love, but do what is best for each one. I do love this person who continues to hurt me and my husband, but there has to be boundaries. There must be limits. My husband needs my love. My children need my love and attention. If I am spent being a care-giver for this other person, too spent to give to my family, than that is not righteousness. I will let you know how things go. decisions for the best interest of all persons must be made.
I am cowering and feeling a bit defeated at present, but turning to God for the answers. Kathi